Am i gay reddit

Desiring emotional connection is not the same as attraction. This is the one. Wanting to be close to guys in a platonic sense doesn’t mean you’re gay or bi. Wanting physical affection and intimacy is another thing. If you're sexually and romantically attracted to women, you're definitely not gay.

You could definitely be gay, but I would simmer in the community for a bit since you’re married and telling your spouse will certainly lead to divorce if you are in fact gay.